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It’s 11:45, you have been asleep for the past hour and the quiet room is disrupted by the sound of your phone going off. You’re first thought is, “who’s calling this late?” Even though you completely know who it is. You grab the phone and sure enough, it’s him. Booty call. We’ve all received (or made) a booty call before, those late night calls that only add up to one thing. Many people ask, “should I be ashamed of a booty call?” Or “should I accept the booty call?”

The real way to answer this question is to ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I Being Real?

If you are a guy and you are leading a girl on but are only interested in her for the booty calls, you have to ask yourself: “am I being real?” If you’re a girl and you claim you only care about him for the booty calls, but you actually care about him deeper, ask  yourself, “am I being real?’ The key to the booty call and all casual sex is that both parties know fully what they are getting themselves into. If they are both comfortable keeping it casual, then there is no problem. But if there is in-authenticity going on, someone may be left getting hurt.

2. How Does It Make You Feel?

Sometimes it’s a good idea to check in with yourself if you have an on-going booty call. Just ask yourself “how does this make me feel?” If you are engaging this booty calls in the hopes that it will lead to a romantic relationship, you might feel bummed if the guy doesn’t feel the same way. If any feelings of shame are coming up, my suggestion is to talk honestly with him or move on. Booty calls are fine- if that is all you are looking for. But if you start feeling low self worth or ashamed, it’s time to take your power back and move on the greener pastures.

3. Don’t Let It Define You

The last thing you want to be is the person waiting on the end of the phone, hoping your booty call will send you a text. You also don’t want your whole life to start revolving around this casual affair. Booty calls are fun but don’t let them define you. If you are looking for a relationship, your booty call may be holding you back. Or if you just want to be single and have fun, spend more time going out with your friends or doing things out and about town. The booty call will be around if you need him or her. Just make sure it is on your terms.

If a booty call is making you feel ashamed, stop what you are doing an re-assess what it is you are really looking for. You'll be thankful that you did.