Today we have a simple trick that you can do to get the guy you're eyeing to approach you without fail. You don't have to put yourself out there by going up and talking to him. You don't even have to fear rejection when using this easy technique. So what is it? You have probably seen it ... maybe even unconsciously done it once or twice. But after I explain it, you'll wonder why you haven't been pulling this trick out of the bag every time you feel like you have chemistry with an attractive stranger.
It's Not Magic, But it is Mind Bending
Let me start by saying that women have lured me in more than once by doing this and the best way for me to explain this is to paint you a written picture.
Imagine that you are out to lunch with a few of your friends. While waiting for a light meal and enjoying the company of your girls, you notice a handsome man across the way. A moment later you catch him looking at you. Pretty soon you find yourself in an ocular game of cat and mouse —who the cat is and who is the mouse has yet to be determined. You two are exchanging glances. You know there is a mutual interest and physical chemistry ... and you can tell that he knows it too. But what do you do? This type of scenario has happened to all of us. It may not have been at a lunch bistro but in some sort of public setting; and what we usually do is let the clock run out.
After all of the looks, the anticipatory butterflies, and raised pitter-patter of your heart, no one made a move. Eventually, one of you runs out of time and must leave. Then you're left with feelings of regret, thinking about what might have been. All it would have taken was one simple gesture and the whole scenario would have changed. A simple beckoning hand signal ... a wave, if you will.
Forget about him needing to make the first move —if you want to get technical about it, he already did with his eyes and his attention on you. Don't worry ... gesturing for him to approach you is a perfectly acceptable thing for a lady to do. And remember, if you are with a group of friends, it may take exactly this to get him to come over. After all, in his eyes, you are sitting smack-dab in the middle of the lion's den. Every single guy-getting-shot-down scene from every movie and T.V. show that he has ever seen is flashing through his mind when it comes to approaching a woman who is nestled in the protective bubble of a bunch of other women.
If you are alone, he will probably come right over. However, if you are out with your pride, he may return the same gesture, indicating that you should come to him. This little game could go on for a bit, just like when the two of you were playing eye-tag. So look for some neutral ground. First and foremost, to him, anywhere is better than the lion's den, and secondly he'll see it as you meeting him halfway.
If you are in a restaurant or the likes, step away from your friends and go stand at the bar, then wave him over again. He will feel less intimidated and come to over to you, I guarantee it!
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So Now What?
OK ... at least now you won't be crooning into your pillow about missed romantic opportunities, but what do you say when he comes over? The answer is: don't say much. Play it coy and say something simple like, "Hello, I just wanted to meet you." or " I just felt like saying hi." Then, zip it. Not only is this adorably mysterious, it puts the ball and the pressure back in his court.
There is no need to sweat bullets about coming up with something interesting to talk about. Just use one of the above examples and force him carry the dialog to the next stage. With a male mind leading the conversation, it will usually lead to exchanging details in short-order. No muss, no fuss.
I told you it was simple. It's harmless as well. The worst thing that could happen is that he balks at approaching you by continuing to try to wave you to him. That will probably never happen if you find some sort of neutral space, but even if it did ... is it really such a bad thing?
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