For some people, it is hard to find a date because they only have a limited array of people to choose from. But for others, it may be hard to find a good date because they have so many attractive prospects.  If this sounds like you, don’t let it overwhelm you – you can actually find the right person among the masses. Before you make a final choice for your ideal date, you should look carefully at the people you are presented with.  This means not just looking at their outward appearance (though that too is important), but you should see how attractive they are from the inside out.  You may have to check their personality, their life goals, and even their value system to determine if what they think and do are in congruence.  For example, you definitely do not want to date someone who goes to worship service daily but then curses out the household help at the slightest mistake.  That person’s behavior is not aligned with his or her value system.  Or maybe you have dated someone who is considered a pillar in the community but has a secret drinking problem.  That kind of mismatch between beliefs and behavior is what you want to avoid in an ideal date.

You should also examine how your ideal date makes you feel when you interact with them even on a casual basis.  For example, you may have a colleague who you try to run into at the office water cooler at least once a day, because they make you feel happy inside.  Or maybe you have a friend who tries to call you at least every weekend, which gives you something to look forward to.  When you find out who these people are, try to determine the specific qualities they have that makes you attracted to them.  Those qualities are probably what you should look for in your ideal date.

Of course, who can forget that all important “C-word?”  Chemistry is definitely a deal-breaker in any relationship, but it is a two-way street.  You may feel attracted to someone, but it cannot evolve into a long-term relationship if it’s not reciprocated.  Chemistry means that you and the person in question should be attracted to one another on many levels (physical, mental, psychological, and emotional) for the relationship to work.  Without chemistry, you are just going through the motions and the relationship will falter.

These are all important factors to consider when you are trying to find the right person to date.  Take note that dating is a process, so you will have to take the time to analyze these steps first and how they apply in your life before you can succeed in dating.  Truth be told, continuous dating can be a great first step in allowing you to find the one person with whom you can envision a future.  So remember to date the right way and increase your chances of success in love.